Advice: Premature Ejaculation

Dear Underwear Hacker, 

What can I do about premature ejaculation?

-Easy Cum

Dear Easy Cum, 

This can be a problem for guys at different points in their lives.  Typically, I hear about it when guys are young and having some of their first sexual experiences, or when they haven't had sex or sexual contact in a while.  Although, others have it throughout their lives or at various points in it, unrelated to the things I mentioned above. 

When someone asks me about premature ejaculation, the first thing I ask about is their masturbation habits.  How often do you do it?  Do you cum pretty quickly when you jack-off?  Can you control it better when your jacking-off?  In some cases, guys have just trained themselves to cum pretty quickly.  You're worried about a roommate or parent walking in, so you whip it out and get off as fast as possible so as not to get caught.  If this is the case, training yourself to take more time while masturbating can be a big help. Try to see how long you can go without cumming.  Set a goal for yourself, and gradually increase it from session to session.  See if you can last 5 mins, then 8, then 10, etc. until you can go as long as you feel is long enough.  You can use things like the squeeze technique and stopping and starting when you feel yourself getting pretty close.  You can also use these techniques during sex.  It's important to have a good sense of your body and know when you're close to cumming with enough time to stop yourself.  You might also try Kegel exercises.  

Beyond these self control techniques, there is also evidence that some drugs may help--particularly anti-depressants and desensitization creams. You would need to talk to your doctor about most of these.  However, I have seen some of these creams sold over the counter.  Typically, they just numb your penis so you aren't stimulated as much.  Personally, I think that takes the fun out of it.  

I'd recommend trying to regain control in a more natural way first.  If the exercises and techniques mentioned above don't work, talk to you doctor as ask about pharmaceutical treatments.